There is no one behind the back, no one behind the back.

Words are like knives, they can bring pain, if not physical pain, they can leave many painful scars emotionally.

To be truly kind as a human being is not only to have a good heart, but also to have a mouth that speaks well.

Speaking well is an upbringing engraved in the bones and a kind of demeanor.

Introduction: \”A person\’s mouth is his best feng shui\” What do you think?

Some people often say that they should ask someone to do a Feng Shui calculation to see what their fortune will be in a year.

In fact, a person\’s mouth is his best feng shui. Control your mouth, say what you need to say, and do what you need to do, which will be the best practice in your life.

Misfortune comes from the mouth.

As the saying goes, \”Diseases come in from the mouth, and disasters come out from the mouth.\” Maybe sometimes an inadvertent sentence will bring you a lot of trouble, and may even lead to death.

At that time, Cao Cao had a very smart subordinate Yang Xiu who was not only powerful and intelligent, but also very understanding of people\’s hearts. However, this extremely smart subordinate died in Cao Cao\’s sword because of his unruly words. Down.

Once Cao Cao went to inspect the newly built gate of the Prime Minister\’s Mansion. Cao Cao looked at it and said nothing. He wrote the word \”live\” on the door and left. The remaining ministers looked at each other in confusion. What\’s the meaning.

Yang Xiu looked carefully and said to the people around him, \”Tear down the door. The Prime Minister thinks this door is too big. Doesn\’t adding the word \”live\” inside a door mean \”wide\”? It means the door is too big.\” It’s too big, the Prime Minister doesn’t like it.” Everyone suddenly realized.

Another time, when Cao Cao was attacking Liu Bei\’s Hanzhong, he couldn\’t defeat it for a long time and was secretly worried. At this time, the ordering soldier came over and asked about the slogan for the evening patrol. At this time, Cao Cao was eating chicken, so he casually said Said \”tasteless\”.

When Yang Xiu heard what had happened, he immediately went back to pack his luggage and told everyone in the military camp, \”It\’s a pity to throw away the chicken ribs. The prime minister felt that it was boring to be unable to attack for a long time. So the Prime Minister plans to withdraw his troops.\”

Maybe Cao Cao himself has plans to withdraw his troops, butIt has not been determined yet, but Yang Xiu\’s words have disturbed the morale of the army, and naturally they have to withdraw.

A prime minister actually let his subordinates make decisions on his behalf. He must not be able to bear it anymore, because Yang Xiu was too smart and understood Cao Cao\’s every move, and he spoke unabashedly, which eventually led to his death.

Zeng Guofan: Don’t act according to your heart, and don’t speak according to your mouth.

Many times, if you say something well, you may gain a friend; if you say something bad, you may offend a group of people.

Good words warm people.

As the saying goes: \”A kind word warms a person for three winters, but a bad word hurts a person for six months.\” A word can warm a person\’s heart, but it may also leave permanent scars on a person\’s heart.

The famous composer Steve Morris had poor eyesight when he was a boy. Others would laugh at him because of it, so he often felt inferior. Once, when he was in an experimental class, a mouse in the laboratory escaped from its cage. The teacher and other students almost searched the laboratory but couldn\’t find it.

At this time, Steve Morris suddenly heard some slight sounds. He asked everyone to calm down, listened carefully, and then pointed out the place where the mouse was hiding. When everyone took a look, the mouse was indeed there.

The teacher in the experimental class discovered his keen hearing and sound sense, praised him greatly, and encouraged him to give full play to his unique advantages and focus on singing. The teacher\’s praise gave him great courage and hope. He no longer felt inferior as before, found his own advantages, and finally gave full play to his strengths.

Words of encouragement always make people feel warm and bright, can give people hope and light, and give people the determination and motivation to keep moving forward. .

A hurtful word is likely to cause scars that will be difficult to heal throughout life. It will always be like a sharp sword, hanging in the heart, and it will be difficult to heal for a long time.

The better you are at talking, the happier others will be; the happier others will be, the more they will like you; the more others like you, the more help you will get, and the happier you will be.

True advice is hard to hear but hard to follow.

As the saying goes, \”Good medicine is bitter in the mouth but good for the disease; good advice is hard on the ears but good for action.\” Some words may not sound pleasant to the ear, but they are indeed true advice. At this time, it depends on the mind and feelings of the person who listens.

Some people can accept different opinions. Even if what they say is not very pleasing to the ears and sounds unpleasant, they can see the true intention of the speaker through the phenomenon, while some people cannot listen at all. If you like it, you will get furious if you hear it.

Wei Zheng went to remonstrate with Tang Taizong, which often made Tang Taizong very angry. However, there were people around Tang Taizong who persuaded him and made him understand Wei Zheng\’s good intentions. Taizong disagreed. Later, after Wei Zheng died, he left behind a good saying: \”Using copper as a mirror, you can straighten your clothes; using history as a mirror, you can know the ups and downs; using people as a mirror, you can understand gains and losses.\”The atmosphere and culture of the prosperous Tang Dynasty.

Even if sometimes, other people’s words make us feel uncomfortable and may hurt us, but we must always understand that although those flattering words may be to our liking, they may not necessarily hurt us. It allows us to really make a difference.

Sometimes we cannot be too stubborn, we must learn to listen to different opinions, we must have a mind that is \”tolerant of all rivers\”, and \”loyalty is helpful for deeds if it is harsh to the ear\” \”Keep this sentence in mind at all times, actively listen to different opinions, and make the right behavior.

The greatest feng shui in a person\’s life is his or her mouth. Take care of your mouth and say what you need to say. Don\’t hurt others with your words, and don\’t flatter others blindly. Learn to listen and express.

What you say is actually how you are in the eyes of others.

Everyone wants to change their destiny, and speaking well can change their destiny.

Text/Lao Xia Analyst

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It once made ripples in your heart, which at least means that it has been in the passing years.

At a certain moment, we are experiencing the same emotions together.

Sometimes, even though we have never met.

But we have known each other for a long time, very subtle and very contented.